Lies we’ve been told by the society
This is my subjective perspective. You’ve been notified!
Every one of us has a sea of unsaid words; lies happen in many ways for many reasons.
Must I keep quiet?
Silence divides us and deprives us of the help, friendship, or simple communion that words can evoke.
Words connect us. Stories unite us.
Here are some lies I believe have been told to us by the society.
Note — For some of you, it might appear vague, bizarre, or simply not true, however, this list is a subjective observation. Do not comment otherwise.
1. Success is the end-goal: Lie
Your journey to success will help you develop and rise to new heights. Success is the ability to concentrate on the work that you genuinely like.
Until some years ago, my entire focus on my career and work was to focus on doing a few things, setting that up fully, working hard for 4–5 years, reaching my success and that's it.
Having this mindset, where all I wanted to do was reach my success, my planned goal; I missed out on celebrating the Small Wins, while I would overcome a particular milestone. I missed out on celebrating the tiny happy achievements.
Fast forward, I have achieved the set goal, and coming to this ending, I realized that this isn’t the end, it's the start.
I realized my lost happy moments.
And from that day, I’ve learned two things:
- To celebrate the smallest of victories and look forward to the journey and not my success.
- The end of one success/goal is the start of another.
2. If you’re in your 20s, then you should read 100s of books every year to get successful: Lie
Reading hundreds of books in a year doesn’t get you any points or achievements.
You’ll be successful in picking up new skills, creating new things, and learning insightful lessons.
While reading books is beneficial, applying what you learn from them takes skill. And that is what matters the most.
If you are reading one book after another, just to finish or tick your ‘to-do list’ you will not learn. Your focus will be diverted to completing the book and not learning.
Instead, read one book, intending to learn and implement the lessons from it, practically in your life.
And it Doesn’t matter if you read one book every week or one book in a month!
3. That Happiness Comes From Money: Lie
First, I will clarify, that yes, Money is Essential and money can be the source of happiness and you can buy things or go on explicit vacations and feel happy, however, what I am trying to point out here is:
Happiness is only a word that may signify many different things to many different individuals. It has lost its meaning, like many other words.
Part of the issue is that we have to set an artificial aim for ourselves. Similar to the word “health,” happiness has a complicated and very personal meaning.
The truth is that there are three key aspects that contribute to true happiness:
- Your words and actions;
- Others’ remarks and behavior toward you; and
- Your immediate surroundings.
For me, Even if I have a million dollars in my bank account, I will not be content and happy if my health is declining or I do not have my family to standby with me.
It may sound cliche. However…
For me, Happiness is beyond material value, it is deep, It comes from within. It is contentment and satisfaction; it is being grateful for the tiniest things in my life, being healthy and alive; it is being with my family and people I love and it is being able to give back to people.
4. Success will make all your problems go away: Lie
“Don’t wish it was easier, wish you were better. Don’t wish for less problems, wish for more skills. Don’t wish for less challenge, wish for more wisdom.” ~ Jim Rohn.
Successful individuals don’t have fewer difficulties; instead, they just have better resources and tactics for solving their issues.
In order to succeed, one must overcome obstacles, and this is true even for those whose careers have reached their peak.
They still need to find solutions to broader challenges if they want to keep being successful. That’s true, the more your problems are, the more successful you become.
Therefore, do not believe that after you achieve prosperity, life will get simpler. No, the only difference is that you will be more equipped to handle the issues you encounter.
5. I need “a” to feel “b”: Lie
It’s simple to fall into the trap of believing that the upcoming success or achievement will lift your spirits. There isn’t.
I only write when I am reminded that I do it because I love to. Whatever happens, after that doesn’t matter as long as I finish the day’s writing.
Success is a byproduct of contentment and engaging in what you love.
The reverse nearly seldom takes place. One of life’s great ironies is this.
You probably believe that something has to be repaired in your life. You believe that in order to experience a specific emotion, something external to you must take place. Even if it did, the shift still took place inside of you.
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